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Should I tell him how I feel? Is this worth pursuing?

I recently moved from the U.S. to Australia to pursue my postgrad studies. I left behind an ex-boyfriend who I still felt very strongly for but he did not have the same desire to get back together. So off I went. Shortly after arriving here I met this guy (we'll call him Antonio) who I became friends with. I was immediately attracted to him but I was not sure if he was gay as well because my gaydar is occasionally thrown off when meeting Europeans (he is Italian). A month and a half later, we are very good friends and hang out very often. We share deep, intimate conversations and laugh a lot. But nothing physical has happened and feelings have not been explicitly expressed. But there have been signs: we take turns paying for each other, he invited me to eat dinner and watch a movie at his apartment, we spent the whole day at the beach together and he asked someone to take a picture of us in front of a rainbow that appeared after a storm. What straight person does that?! Does this mean that he likes me? I have fallen for Antonio. He makes me happy. I am not sure what to do about this. The big hook is that his project is over and he is leaving to go back to Italy in 2 and a half weeks. Is it worth telling him how I feel now? I'm afraid a) he is not gay b) he does not feel the same way for me and c) he will feel uncomfortable once I tell and that will be the end of everything. Should I tell him? If so, when and how should I do it?

Public Comments

1. do it darling before its to late you can casually ask him, but do not rush to saying him what you feel, take it slowly
2. HE IS GOING BACK TO ITALY ANYWAY...You MUST tell him now before it's too late! Otherwise, you could drift away and possibly lose him forever. If telling him how you feel causes you to lose the friendship, it wasn't meant to be anyway. Ask him to stay! Or offer to go with him. But sit him down and TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. Don't take it slow. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. DON'T BLOW IT!
3. Well If you want him make it clear that you do. If he is about to leave you can either spend the next couple of weeks making passionate love. Or worst case scenario he's not gay and gets weirded out, you only have a couple of weeks to deal with it and then its over. I say make your move, you don't have anything to lose but regret. Because we all know that regret sux.
4. LOL....i guess you just need to tell him right away! Anyway, just be prepared to move on, hon!